Robert Downey Jr. (via nathanielstuart)
I know everyone really loves Robert Downey Jr., but please don’t take this advice. This is what’s called being passive aggressive. I work with someone like this, and she drives me nuts. We’ll all strategize about what we’re going to do, and she listens, she smiles, she agrees with everyone, and then she does something completely different. After years of this I have come to realize that I just can’t believe anything that comes out of her mouth. I guess it’s great for her getting to do whatever she wants, but what this actually makes her in practice is an lying backstabber.
If you don’t agree with something you’re being asked to participate in, use your words. Don’t lie to people. Be honest. Tell the truth, share your ideas and opinions. Instead of purposely agreeing to things and then doing whatever you want, just do what you say you’re going to do. That’s the sign of a trustworthy person.
There are enough passive aggressive dicks in the world as it is.(via ivyblossom)
I agree with this. I’ve also dealt with people like that and it feels exactly like that.
But I believe it’s the kind of advice that can be applied in other ways. The way I take it, and practise in my own life, involves dealing with people who wouldn’t listen to what you have to say either way or people you have to actively pretend to listen to (there’s no point in pretending these people don’t exist or can be reasoned with) For me it’s about staying faithful to your beliefs and ideas and following through with them, no matter how many people tell you they’re crazy or wrong. People’s opinions and advice is a double edged sword.